Dies Quinque .:: Amicitia ::.

This blog comes in three parts, all about friendship.

Part One: How I Treat Friendship
The order of which people in my life rate goes like this:

• Family (namely my twin sister)
• Friends
• Me =]

Now in no way and I saying I’m some sort of saint. Actually I’m pretty damn selfish. In all honestly, we all probably are at least at some point or another. For instance, I’m not giving all my spare money to friends and if I had plans to do something I wouldn't just drop them just because somebody asked me to. That said, when it comes to the important things I would do anything for my true friends. As for the not so important, well I’ll make every effort to adjust. As my friend you have my loyalty; hell my friends are my family.

Part Two: Losing Friendship
Why am I writing all this? I’ve just been thinking of friendship as a concept. Friendship is such a valuable and delicate thing; as well as being such a volatile force. Such minor mistakes can cost the friendship to spiral out of control. Once you possess true friendship, ideally you would think one should do anything in their power to never give it up. But then again, everything in life changes eventually. At what point does a friendship change so much that it no longer exists? After that happens, is it irredeemable? I'll give you an example. In my personal experience there was this a friend of mine, let just call her X, who used to be one of my best friends (almost even like a sister) but things with south with us and sometimes I think about what it would be like if we were still friends. Silly, I know. My point is if she was to come to me saying "Let's be friends and I'm sorry" I do not know if I could. Although all is forgiven and I no longer bare a grudge (not to be confused with satisfaction in how things went), if a person cared so little about a friendship before and was so ready to stab you in the back…could you trust them? As much as I would like to believe I'm a bigger person than that, my answer would probably be no.

Part Three: Maintaining Friendship
The most important thing in a friendship I think is to always keep your friends in mind. Even if you think it's obvious, make an effort to include them. Some might not realize that you mentioning a place is an open invitation. This is one of my biggest pet peeves: even if you’re hanging out with a group of people…it’s ok to bring along your friend! Think about it, you wouldn’t know half your friends if they never brought you along to hang out with something new. That’s how you get to know people. Last, but definitely not least, always tell the truth. I wouldn't want you to sugar coat it if I’m doing something wrong. How else am I suppose to find out if my own friends won't tell me? At the same time, be nice about it. You don’t want to tell your boy crazy friend that she’s a slut. Just let her know she has a tendency to ignore others whenever she’s around a guy. =]  "It is one of the severest tests of friendship to tell your friend his faults. So to love a man that you cannot bear to see a stain upon him, and to speak painful truth through loving words, that is friendship." - Henry Ward Beecher


*Disclaimer: I am in no way an expert in friendship. In face you should probably disregard anything I say because I spend most days alone in the basement staring at the phone at the slim chance somebody may call.*